Something that I think comes up somewhat often with the couples I see in couples therapy and coaching as well as my own life is having different perspectives of what quality time looks like.
Are you in a couple? Do you want argue over things to do together? Or even time that you spend together? Does one of you want more time than the other?
Quality time looks different to different people and if you don’t actually know what the other thinks is “quality time” than you may be arguing over the time you have together. If this comes up with your spouse, partner, girl/boyfriend, have a conversation about it. You may find out that one thinks quality time is going to a movie, sitting on opposite or the same side of the couch reading, looking longingly into each others eyes, having the other person’s full undivided attention, doing a project together, eating dinner with or without the tv on, sitting and talking. What kind of attention do you each want for your quality time and if you have what seem like contrasting ideas, how can it become a both/and vs an either/or?
Challenge: have the conversation and see if you are on the same page.
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